Same-Sex Parents

One of my readers and good friend is bisexual and interested in adopting when they are older. They requested a post on same-sex parents! I personally have no insight on that, so I decided to go to the source – a fellow adoptee with two Moms. Here is their response to what it’s like having same-sex parents:

“...as far as I'm concerned same sex adoption is a great way to go, I love my two moms very much and wouldn't change them for the world. Together they raised me, and did an amazing job, and I'm sure my sister would do the same. Honestly most people have been really supportive of it, I mean I never like brought it up, but if people asked me about my parents I would tell them that I have two moms, and everyone mostly have thought of it as really cool... I get weird questions like "do u call them both mom?" Or "do u ever wish u had a dad" or I get "oh are they friends? That just decided to get a baby together? Or are they actually lesbian?" Haha I say yes I call them both mom, and they seem to know most of the time which mom I want, and that they are lesbian and no I don't wish I had a dad 😛 but it's always annoying answering these questions”

Overall, it seems like my friend is perfectly content with her two wonderful Mothers – that’s how it should be! They also have a younger sister that is adopted from China as well. I think it’s really amazing that they do not get any bad comments often, considering the uncontrollable judgement and tactlessness in the world. Obviously there is good in the world (I always focus on that), but with good comes bad. It’s one thing to have to answer questions about adoption, but then add on questions about their two Moms… I would get so sick of it I would just have personalized cards with information like, “I am adopted from China. I was a baby. I have a White family. I have two brothers who aren’t adopted. My Mom chose to adopt. They love me and I love them. And no I have not eaten dog before.” That would save me A LOT of time when people get to know me.

Thank you for reading my post, I hope if you are looking to adopt and you are gay or bisexual that you understand that depending on the country and whether they accept different sexualities, in the past people had to hide their sexualities from the country’s government. I wish that doesn't happen to you. It is not to discourage you from adopting and especially with the world changing, it should not happen as often, but it definitely has occurred. Reality is reality and you should understand what is out there. Research the country you wish to adopt from and get in touch with an agency who can help you through the process.

In conclusion, whether you’re gay, bi, straight, trans, poly, whatever!, you should adopt if YOU want to. I wish you the best of luck and that you may love that child regardless of their past like they shall love you regardless of your sexuality.